Self-Love — The Most Direct Path to Wholeness

Self-love starts with having the courage to be who
you are, regardless of what others might think.

~ By Francine Ward ~

One of the most distinctive traits of e e cummings was that his name was often presented in lower case and without period marks. While Wikipedia suggests that this was essentially a marketing ploy for some of his books, we prefer to think of it as an expression of self-identity — a way of taking a stand for himself as an individual.

After all, cummings had a way of describing things in very unique ways. In his poem commonly known as “in Just-”, he caught the essence of a season in a single stanza:

in Just-
spring          when the world is mud-
luscious the little
lame balloonman

It’s a poem that calls us to embrace the season just the way it is — and for exactly what it is — fresh, rainy, sloppy, and bringing back things we haven’t seen for a time.

The idea of accepting ourselves, others, and the world for just the way they are is both empowering and whole-making. Consider the song “I Love Myself Just the Way I Am”. Before continuing, take a pause (perhaps singing along with it) to watch/listen to a video of it:

Written by Jai Josefs and sung by Freddie Webber, this song might be an Rx (prescription) for daily viewing. The more we can embody its message, the more whole and complete we feel.

Alternatively, consider the quote entitled “Self Love” below from the author of a life-changing book entitled, Esteemable Acts – 10 Actions for Building Real Self-Esteem :

“If love is an action, how do you express self-love?
Self-love starts with having the courage to be who
you are, regardless of what others might think.

It is about having the courage to live your dreams,
to do what makes you happy in life, so that one day
you won’t wake up saying, ‘I wish I had.’

Self-love is about self-care, making your health a
priority. Self-love is revealed in your willingness to
stay focused on the things you say are important.
It’s about having the courage to set boundaries and protect them.”

Self-love creates the capacity for loving others. Think about pouring self-love into an imaginary cup inside of yourself. At some point, the cup brims over — and love begins to flow out to others and the world as a whole.

The poet Kabir wrote ““The river that flows in you also flows in me.” And, in the greatest commandment, Jesus taught that we must love others as we love ourselves. So, in many ways, loving ourselves is Job #1 — the most direct pathway to wholeness of ourselves and for others and the world.

Give Yourself A Loving Hug, Right Now!

Olivia & Steve


It’s Your Turn! 

The concluding verse of “I Love Myself The Way I Am” goes like this:

I love myself the way I am, And I still want to grow.
But change outside can only come, When deep inside I know.
I’m beautiful and capable, Of being the best me I can.
And I love myself, Just the way I am.

What’s your response to the idea of loving yourself “just the way you are” and calling in “growth” (and change) at the same time? How do you “manage” this tension without causing internal conflict, self-judgment, or even an inherent sense of incompleteness? How might the idea of personal growth bring you into alignment with personal and cosmic evolution?

If you’re willing, please share your responses in the comment section under this blogpost as it appears on the Big Love Community Facebook page.

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